Is Marriage for YOU? ... Find out here!

1.       If you still think love is blind or that finance does not matter in marriage…do not approach a priest!

2.       If you don’t like to use the words please, thank you and sorry…don’t just bother even proposing or accepting.

3.       If you are allergic to receiving or giving praises and encouragement freely….. Stay with yourself, your TV remote and a bag of chips.

4.       If your reflex action is to see the half empty part of the glass ALL the time… Sing your SOLO proudly.  

5.       If you are a “polished” babe and you cannot tolerate another person’s impromptu bursts of air and noise pollution even in the most romantic/spiritual/ extremely inappropriate moments (including in church or in front of your parents)…..perish the thought of marriage NOW.

6.       If you are not willing to be open about your finances, your whereabouts and your innermost thoughts…... Just stay single.

7.       If you prefer people to read your mind and anticipate your needs, moods, desires, dreams and reactions….. Nope! Can’t  work for you…..FORGET that "I want to be surprised" matter…You will only end up surprising yourself (as my PDoc. would say)

8.       If you don’t like any form of conflict of ideas/interest, you avoid having difficult conversations and making tough decisions…..just keep buying everything for one! Don’t even bother planning a wedding.

9.       If you do not like people sending you message up and down …both message that  has head and the one that does not have head….my dear embrace yourself. Stay in one place and know at least your moving around makes sense to you.

10.   If you do not even want to hear the word compromise or tolerate  or  “submission” as a woman and as a man you are still asking yourself the meaning of LOVE!!!!…. Waka FAR!!!!

11.   If you are lazy in matters of the bed and you don’t even want to be bothered about it. ….AHA! You know what???Be alone…Be very ALONE.

12.   I REPEAT!!! You are not willing to go over and beyond the call of duty in matters of the bed to please your spouse…..Adopt FYBY oh!!!...For yourself By Yourself!!!

13.   You can’t share, you can’t sacrifice, you can’t endure, you don’t understand what they mean by “be understanding”….. Stay OYO!!!

14.   You don’t have listening skills neither do you have “pretend to be listening skills”…..don’t bother pricing a wedding ring.

15.   You do not take criticism well and you prefer to be surrounded by people that say yes all the time, you also prefer things to be done your way after all you are well educated, seasoned and travelled from the womb of your aristocrat parents till date…..Don’t even bother with anything to do with the alphabet M!!!

16.   You believe your spouse is a reflection of who you are and therefore should conform to a certain standard or character type which you have set in your mind since you were a young budding youngster…you go wound!!!

17.   You don’t believe that personal hygiene and  physical appearance matter or have anything to do with a successful marriage…Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha……Seriously don’t bother!!!!

18.   The thought of staying faithful and committed to ONE PERSON for the rest of your life scares you and you really feel there is still someone MORE- out there for you….Get a one room flat in a highbrow area of town and engrave your name on the gate. You are SINGLE!!!!

19.   You believe all you need is love and no preparation, reading, training or counseling is required before the altar…you will cross each mountain when you get there….Just skip the altar and head to a divorce lawyer.

20.   You do not believe that Marriage has some spiritual elements and should not be ventured into without the help of GOD the father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit….Now you are in trouble….don’t do it…. don’t bother getting married.

 

I hope I have helped you make up your mind. Should you desire or choose to still go ahead and get married, I am always available and twill be my utmost pleasure to be the compere of the special occasion…Call ME!

Fresh Pictures

My pictures from an Airtel event for 420 persons @ Harbour point, VI, Lagos.

Theme was Celebrtaing Nigeria!

Twas a 4 hours event....notice I moved around a lot.
It was formal and successful.

Hi Five!!


 

ME on the Radio !!!

In case you haven't heard...

I am on the radio now: 5-6 PM on Inspiration FM every Saturday.

 Name of the show is HOMEMAKERS...Plenty of gist..

Do tune in and call in. Loads of gifts to be won.

ALUU 4

So sad

I finally got the true picture of the matter and it turns out these boys were not thieves after all. Apparently someone was owing one of them money and they went to get the money but the guy refused so they collected his phones and laptop stating that when he is ready to pay, he would get his stuff.

The guy started shouting that the boys were thieves and they were the cultists that have been tormenting the village..the villagers rushed out and mobbed them.

Too sad.

I cant bring myself to watch the video. Why would someone just keep recording such a thing? What is happening to our society. Young boys like that? This country needs a total overhauling...justice system, health system, roads everything...... or else the future of our kids is in trouble.

I have renewed my commitment to pray for Nigeria maybe even more than I pray for myself. What about you?

Let us pray....

Whisper your heart's desires to the Lord...He throws the best surprise parties.

My prayers are with the flood victims, the first lady and everyone else who is going through a rough patch this season.

No I do not believe that the first Lady's illness or disappearance is something to rejoice or laugh about because we gain absolutely nothing as a nation if something negative happens to her. It is possible though that it is a sign for future leaders and their spouses to be wary how they treat people and resources or how they advice their spouses to treat people and resources.

As in if your husband or wife is the next president, by the time you remember that the last few presidents entered and came out alone or something serious happened to them, you will be more careful...I'm just saying...in light of all that has happend in Aso rock in the past few regimes. Abi the next president should just gently get another accomodation? Is it something in the Aso rock water?

However i'm not accusing anyone of anything, just writing my musings.

Then about these 4 guys that were killed and everyone is protesting...I did not watch the video and I do not support people taking the laws into their own hands at all....but if you have ever been robbed....the rage ........however that is not an excuse to take another person's life...but oh the rage...

Anger is a bad thing. It can consume you and make you do the craziest things. God help us all.

My condolences to their families...I hear two of them are cousins. Lord have mercy. Please take heart.

Heres a thought...

Me @ a Zain event when they were Zain 2010...
twas the visit of the late Stephen Covey to Nigeria and this was the staff event
I organized and compered....I have lost weight ooooo by the way!

I have big dreams …really big dreams and the more I dream, the harder I pray that God will help me to work on my weaknesses and personality now that I am nobody.

 In recent times I have come to observe and learn that you need to conquer self, ego, selfishness, greed, laziness, lies, jealousy, envy, strife, malice ( have I mentioned GREED???? Yes I have …..And so many other vices that come naturally with being a human being) daily as you grow or else they have a way of raising their ugly heads when you least expect and it’s a hot mess leading to destruction….your destruction!!!

 Sometimes they even take away your eyesight so much that you don’t even know you are going down *shivers*…

Trust me I have observed some of these traits even in babies that are even less than 12 months old. Its called the “Adamic” nature and NO it doesn’t go away just because you are a Christian. These things are like weeds. No matter how beautiful and well-trimmed a garden is, the weeds try to sprout from time to time and if you don’t nip them in the bud, they have a way of taking over and making the beautiful garden ugly.  This is why the bible says that the renewing of the mind should be daily.

I want to be great yes but I don’t want to hurt people to become great and neither do I want to hurt people when I am great. At least not consciously and if I ever do, I don’t want to be too big to  say I’m sorry …so help me God.....So help me Baba God.

TOP Conversation of my day

Me (watching a lady in a movie with long locks of hair): I'm thinking of  consciously taking steps to grow my natural hair to be as long as this.

PDoc: Really?

Me: Yes ....why? What do you think? Do you like the idea?

PDoc: You know I like you with or without Hair

Awww....sweet man!

I'm blessed. I remember back in school... one or two guys who I almost started relationships with and they wanted to practically tell me how to breathe their way.....I'm glad those didn't work out...PDoc likes me for me and I appreciate that. Sometimes I wonder if it is a good thing though....if he is not indulging me too much..... but when I think about it.....naaaa it just makes me a better person.

 Love you my darling...kiss! kiss!

P.S. Yes its true I want to grow my natural hair into long wavy locks. A lot of eggs will loose their lives in the process. I have been doing some research... I will need eggs, glycerin, extra virgin olive oil, natural honey, distilled water and the eye of a lizard......LOL!! Ok i'm kidding about the lizard but twas beginning to sound like a list for a Nollywood scene....anyway these are ingredients for nourishing and strengthening the hair and twill still be far cheaper than these Brazilian locks flying around.

Will keep you posted on the development.

Yes I want to be slim, fair and have long wavy locks of hair with light brown eyes....look around you which woman doesn't?.....LOL!

HOMEMAKERS is FINALLY on Air and so am I

Let me start by saying ......Oh NO I forgot to take a picture!!!!!

It was on my list of things to do but somehow Inspiration FM confusion took over (honestly I dont mean to tarnish anyone's image but really they could be more organized) and I didnt get to do anything that I planned, the way I planned.

Thank God I had rehearsed for the show or else I would have been a wreck.

For some reason, I am not as giddy with excitement as I thought I would be. Maybe its because of all the mountains we climbed to get the show on air or maybe that's how life is, when you have wanted something to happen to you for so long and it finally happens, you feel numb....like them that dreamed....HMMMMM!!

So anyway there were technical hiccups and we started late like 10 minutes into the show, the real soundtrack was not used bla bla bla but it HAPPENED and its HAPPENING again every Saturday 5-6PM for the next 12 weeks and by God's grace beyond.

God is AMAZING

This thing that seemed impossible, this thing that I had desired for so long, doors have been shut in my face...this thing I had given up hope on...fell right into my lap...just like that and I was behind the consul...live and on air.

I keep remembering when I was growing up and I first told my mum I wanted to work in a radio station and own it eventually....seemed so far away...but yesterday the 6th of October 2012 we spoke before and after the program and she reminded me.

This is just the beginning folks and I am so grateful to God for making this happen to me and for tiny me.

HOMEMAKERS is on the air and I am the host of the show...LIVE and DIRECT....it can only be God. Thank you Jesus.

 

Happy 52nd Birthday Nigeria

And may all our dreams come true

Chigo How far naaaaa????

 

Dear friends, how are you all doing?

 I know I know I have been AWOL and I am sorry. Truth is I was feeling very, very and totally uninspired…. had some challenges and I needed to take some time off blogging. Some people were mean to me…from both expected and unexpected quarters and I had to take time to heal and deal with my emotions and the shock of what exactly happened.

 It is hard to be a Christian and do the right thing sometimes…..to fight back and deal strong blows when you feel wrongly treated is sometimes the sweetest and most satisfying option but ALAS!!!…not usually the best option… but anyways the important thing is that I have resumed my blogging duty and I am sorry for running off without your permission…Please forgive me…Lol!

Blogging is a gift given to me by God and no I am not throwing it away.

Again there was the radio show, I was kind of waiting for it to start before I resumed but alas we were having some teething problems with the radio station …Life is funny…..I would have imagined that to do a radio show or anything at all, once you have sponsors/financial back up, all your problems would be solved but Nooooooo…the radio station needs to let you know they are the boss.

So we have been going back and forth on stuff but everything is resolving, it shall surely come to pass.

At first when the radio station started giving us stress I panicked and started regretting announcing I was going on air. Omooo I had put it on BB, Chi.N.N, Facebook, Twitter….Name it!

 I was just regretting my olofofo ways…I  had this philosophy that I should have kept it hidden until it had matured and become a reality….maybe because people are wicked and they might do something to thwart it or just maybe because I didn’t want to be embarrassed if for some strange reason things didn’t work out…then I could shrink back into the wall paper…Lol ….but you know as I meditated on this and asked myself why I allowed myself break this rule, It came to my heart that God announced the birth of Christ before He was born, announced it when he was born and kept announcing Him…..even though He knew the baby had enemies and to keep it a secret would have been better, easier and of course less stressful but our God announced the arrival of his long awaited dream anyway.

In fact before Jesus went into the wilderness to be tempted, God had just announced that He was the chosen one.  

Pastor Sam Adeyemi said he knew where he was going in life was special even though he didn’t look like it but oh how he was tested…he was tested spiritually, financially, emotionally…just name it…but today at the other side of that test there is victory.

Just as Jesus promised…in this world there will be trials but be of good cheer….I have overcome for you …(I am paraphrasing now).

So let’s just say even though I am not yet fully on the on the other side, sitting at the consul and officially welcoming you to Homemakers radio show YET…but I am on the way …smelling the roses while at it and appreciating the lessons learnt . Someday I am going to own my own radio station and ain’t none of this crap I am seeing gonna show up dia in Jesus name …You gate it????